Ex-hooker Rebecca Dakin has gone public about her former career, exposing the ins-and-outs of the world’s oldest profession, as well as the psychology of the men who support it.
Dakin, 37, spent nine years as a prostitute “dating” an estimated 900 customers before quitting the life to seek out a new path as an author, dating coach and infidelity expert.
“If your man is not asking you for sex anymore, it means he’s seeking it elsewhere — he’s not going to accept being in a marriage without sex,” Dakin said. “They are probably relieved that he’s not hassling them and just decide to turn a blind eye.
“Everyone always hates the escorts, but you have to remember there are women are probably quite thankful that they’re around.”
Dakin estimated about 60 percent of her Valentine’s Day clientele in the past “were married or had girlfriends,” explaining what she thinks the rationale is for the unfaithful behavior.
“Men cheat for different reasons,” Dakin said. “Some may be genuinely lacking intimacy at home, but others just get off on the danger element of wondering whether they’ll get caught.”
And “some guys,” Dakin says, “are just cheats.
“Some are not confident about communicating with their other half. They think that if they tell her they want more sex, she’ll be upset. Some don’t want to leave, as they love their wife, but they need more intimacy. By seeing an escort, they’re just trying to find a way to stay with the woman they love.”
Dakin said her unique perspective gives her a chance “to challenge women’s point of view” on cheating and help them understands the reason behind why it happens, even if she’s morally opposed to it. Dakin conceded that while some think she has credibility issues because of her former career, she’s certainly learned a thing or two in her time on the clock.
“I’ve dated around 900 men and my knowledge comes from experience,” she said. “I know what I’m doing is of value — I just want to help people stay in relationships.”
For more on Dakin, check out her website http://www.rebeccadakin.com.