The Smash star maintained a dignified silence when the news initially broke, but now she and her family are beginning to settle again, Messing has finally spoken out about the terrible break-up.
"Twenty years. It's a very long time," Messing told Ladies Home Journal. "I think the institute of marriage is a noble thing. I think the idea of a partner for life is incredibly romantic. But now we're living to 100. A hundred years ago people were dying at age 37. Till death do us part was a much different deal."
Following the split, Messing relocated from L.A to New York to co-parent their eight-year-old son Roman, and she told the magazine that the whole process was “completely traumatic.”
"I had to find a school for my second grader. We didn't have a home, we didn't have furniture. It was literally moving here with nothing but faith and hope," Messing said. "It was traumatic because every aspect of my life was going through a huge change."
Messing - who is currently dating her Smash costar Will Chase, 41 - is hopeful that 2012 will be a better year.
"It’s a new chapter in my personal life. I’m walking a path I’ve never walked before. But I’m optimistic," she said. "I know myself better than I ever have before. I feel more attractive now than I have in a long time. I feel healthier and stronger."
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