‘Married At First Sight’ Pastor Gives Lecture After Dave Says He Doesn't 'Love' Amber

Married At First Sight’s Pastor Calvin Roberson dropped some knowledge on the latest episode of the Lifetime show.

During a group dinner, the men sat with their mentour to talk about the distinction between loving someone and being in love.

“’Love’s’ a big word but I care very deeply about Amber. I’m not ‘in love’ with her,” said Dave Flaherty speaking of his new wife, Amber Martorana.

“How do you know?” asked the pastor.

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“Yeah, that’s a tough question. I think you just do know,” replied Dave.

The pastor then compared the term “falling in love” with a person losing control and falling to a puddle. He then argued that truly being in love with someone consisted of something different.

“Love is something that you grow. Because when you grow something you have to nurture it, you have to water it, and you take an active part in its growth,” he said to the newlyweds.

“You are the ones who are responsible for it growing. So I believe that if you love someone, it’s an intellectual decision that you make, to be committed to that person’s legitimate needs. And once you’ve decided to do that, and made that intellectual commitment: ‘I’m gonna be committed to fulfilling your needs. Period. Till death do us part,’” said the pastor.

Married At First Sight plays Tuesdays at 9:00p.m. on Lifetime.