It’s been a rollercoaster ride for DJ Samantha Ronson and actress Lindsay Lohan since this unlikely pair first became an item and now it looks like their volatile relationship is finally over. After a barrage of bizarre personal messages via Twitter from Lohan a locksmith was spotted at Ronson’s Hollywood home, and worse, Ronson’s family visited the Beverly Hills Police Department on Monday seeking information about how to obtain a restraining order. RadarOnline.com spoke to an expert to break down the inner workings of their possible co-dependant relationship.
“By seemingly harassing Samantha it would seem that Lindsay is unconsciously trying to re-engage her in the relationship,” says psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner. The author of Love In 90 Days: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Own True Love has never treated either Ronson or Lohan. ““It is a plea to get back together which carries a lot of emotion, anger and negative feelings.”
With a nine year-age gap, constant media attention and volatile personalities, it was always going to be tough for this unconventional couple to remain together. Their different family backgrounds could also affect their relationship. Ronson, 31, was born into a wealthy London family- her mother was socialite Anne Dexter Jones and her father was property entrepreneur Laurence Ronson. The popular DJ was introduced to music when her mother re-married Foreigner guitarist Mick Jones. Her brother Mark is currently one of the most in-demand producers (she also has a sister Charlotte who is a fashion designer). Child model Lohan, 22, comes from a much more turbulent Irish/Catholic background raised in Long Island, New York, by her parents Michael and Dina Sullivan. The pair split when Lohan was only 3-years-old before re-uniting and separating again with Dina seeking a restraining-order to keep Michael away from the family.
With numerous trips to rehab and various DUI offences many insiders claim that Lohan is trapped in a vicious co-dependent relationship with Ronson.
“In such a passionate hot and cold relationship like this one the sense of loss can be much greater for somebody who does not have strong family ties,” Dr. Kirschner explains. “There are obviously co-dependency issues here and this would be a great opportunity for each individual to do some therapy or go into rehab.”
While Lohan is emerging as the more dramatic force of the duo, Dr. Kirschner points out it takes two to emotionally tango: “Samantha may feel that she is the care-taker in this relationship and that can give a sense of empowerment – but the reality is that it takes two people to create drama in a relationship which can escalate if they are both acting immaturely.”
Moving forward, “it is important that both women have the support of their family and friends to help cope with any feelings of isolation that they might have.”