Gay legal honchos from the ACLU and Lambda Legal are echoing the call by a number of state attorneys general: They're begging gays not to travel to get married in California only to return back to their home states and sue for their marriages to be recognized. Strange bedfellows! So what motivates the "slow down, nelly!" gay agenda now? For one thing, terror of the U.S. Supreme Court. Let's read the pink memo!

The sneaky gays say they'll win the war over gay marriage by gaining hearts and minds. Eww, organ theft!

• We need to lay the groundwork by changing the climate—convincing community leaders, moving public opinion—before we rush into court.

They also don't you want to return home to Nebraska and South Dakota—and why do you live there anyway, gay?—and sue your boss:

• And in a state with a law against honoring the marriages of same-sex couples, suing a private employer or other institution that isn't part of the government over its refusal to honor your marriage is almost always a really bad idea.

And they really, really don't want to go up against the top court. Even though it'd be fun to watch Antonin Scalia flip his wig.

• The history is pretty clear: The U.S. Supreme Court typically does not get too far ahead of either public opinion or the law in the majority of states. For example, few states still had laws requiring segregation or outlawing interracial marriage by the time the Court struck those laws down. Most states had already struck down or repealed their own laws against same-sex intimacy when the Supreme Court invalidated Texas's law. [...] Let's not forget: it took 17 years to undo Bowers v. Hardwick, the 1986 Supreme Court case that upheld Georgia's sodomy law. And that was fast for the Supreme Court.

And they describe exactly how the gay agenda has worked in one instance.

• The win in California was no accident. Cities in California started adopting Domestic Partnership policies in the mid 80s. The state adopted its first law in 1999, and expanded it over the next six years. Courts in California have been deciding important cases about discrimination since the 70s. With the victories in Massachusetts and California, we should be able to win marriage more quickly in other states.